Our Program

 

Attending SAA meetings starts us on a new way of life. But while the SAA fellowship supports our recovery, the actual work of recovery is described in the Twelve Steps.

Meetings are forums for learning how to integrate the steps into our lives. Working the Twelve Steps leads to a spiritual transformation that result in sustainable relief from our addiction.

 

When we start attending meeting of Sex Addicts Anonymous®, many of us are surprised to meet people who are enjoying life and experiencing freedom from the painful, compulsive behaviors that had brought them to SAA. Listening to other members share about their recovery, we gradually realize that in order to make the same kind of progress, we need to be willing to do whatever it takes to get sexually abstinent, and to stay abstinent.

We have learned from hard experience that we cannot achieve and maintain abstinence if we aren't willing to change our way of life.

But if we can honestly face our problems, and are willing to change, the twelve steps of SAA will lead to an awakening that allows us to live a new way of life according to spiritual principles. Taking these steps allows fundamental change to occur in our lives. They are the foundation of our recovery.

 

 

The Twelve Steps of Sex Addicts Anonymous

 

   1.          We admitted we were powerless over addictive sexual behavior - that our lives had become unmanageable.

 

   2.          Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

 

   3.          Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood God.

 

   4.          Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

 

   5.          Admitted to God, to our selves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

 

   6.          Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

 

   7.          Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.

 

   8.          Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.

 

   9.          Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would harm them or others.

 

10.         Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

 

11.         Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out.

 

12.         Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other sex addicts and to practice these principles in our lives.

 

These steps are the heart of our program. They contain a depth that we could hardly have guessed when we started. Over time, we establish a relationship with a Power greater than ourselves, each of us coming to an understanding of a Higher Power that is personal for us. Although the steps use the word "God" to indicate this power, SAA is not affiliated with any religion, creed or dogma. The program offers a spiritual solution to our addiction, without requiring adherence to any specific set of beliefs or practices. The path is wide enough for everyone who wishes to walk it.

There is no correct or SAA-sanctioned way to complete the Twelve Steps. Most of us learned how to work the steps from our sponsors. Many of us have also gained insight from books or adapted methods from other twelve-step programs.

In our book we suggest ideas for how to work each step, based on approaches that have worked for many of us.

 

 

From Chapter 3 in the book "Sex Addicts Anonymous"®.