Our Addiction


Before coming to Sex Addicts Anonymous®, many of us never knew that our problem a name. All we knew was that we couldnt control our sexual behaviour. For us, sex was a consuming way of life. Although the details of our stories were different, our problem was the same. We were addicted to sexual behaviours that we returned to over and over, despite the consequences.


Sex addiction is a disease, affecting the mind, body and spirit. It is progressive, with the behaviour and its consequences usually becoming more severe over time. We experience it as compulsion, which is an urge that is stronger than our will to resist, and as obsession, which is a mental preoccupation with sexual behaviour and fantasies. In SAA, we have come to call our addictive sexual behaviour acting out.


We chose sex and romantic obsession over those things we cherished the most including friends, family and career. Sexual thoughts, romantic fantasies, and seductive planning filled our minds and distorted our thinking. Sex became our way to escape our feelings and responsibilities. We repeated our sexual behaviours even though we knew they would bring harm to ourselves and others. We made attempts to stop this behaviour, but they failed.


From Chapter 1 in the book "Sex Addicts Anonymous"®.